So many of us working moms live super busy lives. Always on the go or working on a project. Sometimes it’s easy to get overwhelmed or stressed and this may turn us into a not-so-fun mom. Especially now, with us spending more time at home with our kids and spouses, it’s important to try to keep a positive atmosphere for our families to dwell in. It gets hard sometimes but if you practice these 6 tips you’ll be a master at raising your tribe while keeping good vibes.
Allow time for yourself
This is probably the most important tip. Self-care is so important for our mental health. It’s a challenge trying to care for someone else when you aren’t taking care of yourself. Even if it’s for just 30 minutes a day, set aside time for yourself and do something that makes you feel good. Wake up before the kids to enjoy the quiet and a warm cup of coffee or tea. Go for a walk during nap time or enjoy a nice, long bath when the kids go to bed. When you set this time aside for yourself you’ll be a mom who’s easier to talk to and more fun to be around.
Be a positive role model
As we already know, kids notice and mimic everything. There have probably been times that you’ve noticed them doing or saying something that you’re guilty of. So when it comes to the way you handle stress or react to something bad that they’ve done, they notice this as well. Being a good role model is an easy way to set good vibes in your home. Show your kids a proper way to handle stress and how to have a positive attitude. Try to refrain from raising your voice too often. This also ties into the previous tip of practicing self-care. When you’re a mom who’s easier to talk to and more fun to be around, your kids will notice and practice the same, calm and fun behavior.
Setting boundaries may seem counterproductive when trying to keep good vibes in your home. However, when there are clear and consistent rules it’s easier for your child to understand what you expect from them and how to not get on mom’s bad side.
Communicate your expectations with them early on so they are aware. Repeat them as often as you need to so your kids remember them. Explain to them why these boundaries are in place and why they are important. Whether it’s for their health, safety, or everyone’s sanity. Remain firm and consistent with consequences when these rules or boundaries are broken. However you decide to discipline your child, just make sure it’s the same every time so they are not confused and they take you seriously.
Be encouraging, motivating, and supportive
Sometimes parents forget this part because we’re focused on being the authoritative figure. Our kids need to feel supported and usually need emotional guidance until they are old enough to move out of the house. Keep an open line of communication with your kids. Help them learn problem-solving skills and how to express their emotions. Even if they’re throwing a tantrum or upset because they were just disciplined or told “no”, communicate that you understand why they’re upset.
On the other hand, remember to celebrate when they do something good and motivate them to keep going. When you keep this dialogue and encouragement going within the relationship you allow your child to always feel comfortable with communicating and expressing their feelings.
Make time for family time
Try to fit family time somewhere into your busy schedule. Whether it’s setting aside an hour to play, getting outside with the kids, or a game night with the entire family on the weekend. Your kids notice when you make time for them and, even if they don’t say it, they appreciate it too! This bonding time will continue to contribute to the good vibes you’re creating.
Notice when you’re reaching your breaking point before it happens
How many times have you felt yourself getting annoyed or overwhelmed by the kids before you eventually yelled at them? Most times we feel it coming and hope they’ll make a better decision without us having to say anything. But in order to keep the good vibes going among your tribe, it’s best to express how you’re feeling instead of letting it get to the point of no return. As we work on being positive role models and teaching our children how to express their emotions, let’s try to refrain from reaching our breaking point and communicate our feelings to our children while we’re still calm.
Next time you feel like you want to reset the vibes in your household, revisit these tips! It’s never too late to start. You’ll realize that you’ll be a little less stressed and your family will thank you for setting good vibes!