5 WAYS TO BE BODY CONFIDENT.
I know some of you saw the title of today’s blog and are already a little nervous to continue reading. Don’t be! Selfless Sisters is here to bring confidence to those who need it and be a reminder for everyone that we all have our own issues.
We are all facing our own battles, even if we don’t show them.
Do you see all those beautiful women in the photos above? While they may look happy on the outside, I know if I asked each one of them, they would confess to their own struggle. Sometimes, as women we don’t like to admit our flaws or publicly declare them unless we are 100% comfortable with a particular person. Even when we admit our flaws it can be hard to look past them in a positive way.
In fact, there are around 91% of women in the UK who are not happy with their bodies! That’s a huge number! Learning to love and appreciate your body will bring you much needed confidence to experience life in the best way possible.
What is causing us to feel this way?
There are various reasons why so many of us have low self esteem when it comes to body confidence. Some of these may include:
- Negative comments about your appearance
- Hereditary unhappiness with body image
- Cultural judgement
- Peer pressure
- Media & advertisements
- Weight management
- Promotion of fad diets & weight loss programmes
- Public campaigns for weight loss
I think for most women any form of media is our worse enemy. The constant flow of photo shopped images, promotion of popular items & diet pills, comparison of friends bodies, encouragement of body enhancement, I mean, the list could keep going!
Like myself, I think most women haven’t quite mastered the art of no comparison. Constantly exposing ourselves to these types of media outlets opens our minds up for instant comparison of others.
I have come up with five ways to regain some body confidence that you may of lost. Are you ready? Be brave, we can do this!
1. Change your focus
Instead of focusing on what is wrong, try focusing on what is right! Find the things you love about your body and learn how to dress or accentuate them. If you are struggling to think of things you love why not try seeing how different parts of your body are needed. For instance, if you play a sport and have muscular legs which make you insecure, think about what would happen if you didn’t have them. The answer, you wouldn’t be able to play the sport you love, and would lose the health benefits from working out.
It may sound silly to question why certain body parts look the way they do, or the reasons why you have them, but in reality it is all about training your mind to view things a little differently.
2. Master the art of no comparison
I mentioned it earlier in the blog but women are not the best when it comes to mastering the art of no comparison! It’s normal, we are surrounded by constant comparison and judgement from our friends, family members and media outlets just naming a few. Remember my opening fact? 91% of women are unhappy with their bodies, so instead of judging the next woman why don’t we try encouraging them instead.
Lets agree that we are all hiding something we don’t like about our bodies, lets stand together and encourage each other instead of making unnecessary comments. Sometimes what may seem like a small comment to you can be an insecurity for someone else.
In fact, I want to challenge you right now!
- Head over to Facebook or Instagram
- Find one person who has uploaded a photo of themselves
- Leave an uplifting comment
- Leave a comment at the end of this blog to let me know you did it!
Feels good right? If writing an uplifting comment feels good, imagine what it would feel like to receive them too!
3. It’s all about perspective
I think it’s important to look beyond the photo’s we are viewing and think what happened to it before it came on my screen. Confused? Let me break it down:
Adriana Lima is a naturally beautiful women who has graced the Victoria Secret catwalk for many years. The photo on the left is the original photo and the one on the right is the photo which ends up on our news feeds.
Just at a quick glance you can see the following:
- Smoother skin
- Skin tone alteration
- Brightening of the eyes
- Effect added to make lips shinier
- Definition of her eyebrows
Within just a few short moments I had noticed 5 alterations and that’s without getting a closer look at the rest! So how can we keep our body confidence high with images like these everywhere? It is all about perspective. Perspective, perspective, perspective, keep repeating that word until it sticks in your mind.
Whens scrolling through your social media feeds or watching advertisements remember to think beyond the final edit. At the end of the day, the people in the photos/advertisements don’t even look like that! Lets stop comparing ourselves to digitally enhance images and keep things in perspective.
4. Pamper yourself
Even if you haven’t yet found a love for your body don’t disregard it, it still deserves love and attention. When someone says pamper yourself, instantly most peoples minds go to a spa, face masks, manicures, while all those things are good there are other ways too.
Other ways to pamper yourself include:
- Wear clothing which is not loosely fitted
- Moisturise your skin
- Spray perfume before leaving the house
- Style your hair for the day
- Eat a balanced diet
- Take a 5 minute mind break everyday
While some of these may seem insignificant, building small routines into your day will help with your body confidence. Start off with just one task and gradually build up as you become more confident in who you are. You can even experiment with the routine to see which makes you more confident.
Remember, not every becomes confident using the same techniques, it is trial and error until you find something which works for you. There are no rights and wrongs when it comes to finding your own body confidence!
5. Mind breaks
Most of the time our insecurities come from our own thoughts. We are the one scrolling through social media feeds and finding comparisons between ourselves, and the people we are looking at. It’s time to give our minds a break! Take some time off social media, read a book, meditate, cook or find any other activity to limit the amount of time you spend online.
Encourage yourself to take a least five minutes each day and spend time being thankful, or uplifting of yourself. If that is too much to begin with why not start of small and say one nice thing about yourself each day. Everybody has to start somewhere, I highly encourage you seek positive affirmation towards yourself in order to grow in your body confidence.
I know reading this blog post will not solve your body confidence over night, but I hope it sets you on the right track to loving yourself! For all those women out there who already love their bodies, I am proud of you.
Let’s continue building an encouraging community of women by interacting with one another in the comment sections or on Selfless Sisters social media accounts. Remember, we are all in this together and we will be much stronger if we help one another out!
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Until next time, your Selfless Sister : )